Deck the Halls 08

 

We had a great time decorating the tree. I am so glad my mom was here this year. Everyone had a fun time and I don't think we broke anything.

Look Who Turned 5!

 

Shay turned 5 on Monday, Dec. 1st. We had a great day and had her party at Monk*y Jo*s. It has been 18 months since she became my daughter and I can't imagine her not being here. We talked about her story before bed and I'm sure she doesn't understand all that we talked about. But she does know she came from China and that Mama loves her. Today she tells me "Jesus Loves Her and made her special."
Special Things about Shay's 4th year!
First full year at her forever home.
Had surgery to fix her palate and everything went so good - No longer needs Speech Therapy
Still loves to talk - all the time
Loves to eat - all the time
Favorite food Ramen Noodles
Very self confident
Favorite Activity - School
Favorite toys - Dress up - She is always a princess
Princess Ariel for Halloween
Sleeps with her stuffed animals and blanket but doesn't have a special one.
Thankful for "Candlesticks" (Story for another day - won't let her forget about that)
She loves to sing and read books (her own version)
Another story - Told her teachers the first day of school this year that - "They had to many rules and that she was not coming back the next day because they hurt her heart."
Seems to have lost most of her Mandarin but can still count, say hello, good bye and thank you
I feel so blessed to have her as my daughter. There are so many times I just have to thank God for letting me be her mom. She makes life joyful most of the time. There are times she gets in trouble and I can see that prissy side which will make the teenage years really fun. She feels the need to be the center of attention to often but what little girl doesn't.
On her birthday I could not help but think of her birth mother. I am so thankful for the choices she made. It must have been so hard for her. I hope she knows that she is loved and enjoying the life she has.

Happy Thanksgiving

Make a Smilebox greeting

Wordless Wednesday With Words

Look who lost their first tooth. Everyone is claiming some responsibility. I had noticed that his new teeth were coming in behind his baby teeth and I was afraid that the baby teeth might not ever get loose. Shay and Nathan were playing and he had taken her blanket and put it in his mouth. (Gross) She decide to yank it out of his mouth and loosened the tooth. He was not happy about that so I left it alone and the tooth stayed in for another week. Then we were reading and he really did not want to be reading which was beginning to build into an all out battle when he flung his arms and accidently hit himself in the mouth. Out came the tooth. He blamed me for making him mad but hey the tooth came out with out any fuss. I was such a whimp when I was little about teeth and was not looking forward to helping him since he is really bad with pain and boo boo's. But this was an answer to pray and now he wants to knock the rest of them out. Tomorrow he has to get a weakness fixed in one of his front teeth and is looking forward to going to the dentist. They have the coolest office with all kind of things for kids to do. Maybe I would like the dentist if I'd had that when I was younger. Right now I think the dentist ranks about last on my list of things I enjoy doing. The tooth fairy came and he got a couple of gold dollars. I can't believe he is growing up so fast.

First Cheerleading Competition

Shay had her first cheerleading competition this past weekend and it was so much fun. She is a member of a Tiny Cheerleading team made up of 3 - 5 year olds. They practice once a week for one hour and compete a couple of time during the year. They were all so cute and did a great job. For their first time everyone performed and seemed to have fun. They got treat bags and a medal. I could not help but cry she makes me very proud and really does a great job. It is hard having coached for so many years to see her out there knowing where to go and what to do. She loves dancing, singing and performing so I think we might be in this for awhile.

Wordless Wednesday

Fall Fun

Make a Smilebox slideshow

"Best Halloween"

Nathan's First School Project on Vampire Bats

We had a great Halloween tonight. Marcia and Madeline joined us for Trick-or-Treating and both Shay and Madeline had a great time. Thank you for calling and joining us. Shay was Aeriel. She picked her from all the princesses and she was so cute. She is so into all of this and so excited. I love seeing both of them so happy and enjoying the experience. Nathan kept telling me when we got home that this was his best Halloween. (Something he says any time he really is enjoying himself)He was great and did a good job picking out his costume. He first wanted to be Rex from Clone Wars and then add some Batman parts because he also loves Batman. At school he earned some vampire teeth so they were added to create - Vampire Rexman. He was the only one. We did see some awesome Batmans. He was very proud and would show his retractable wings to anyone who would watch. Some where in the rule book for kids they learn about counting their candy. This was the first thing Nathan did when he got home. I never mentioned that to him but I do remember doing it when I was little. Shay has not discovered that rule but enjoyed watching him count and got so excited about reaching 100 and more. Later they answered the door and would give out candy Nathan complimented everyone on their costumes or would ask them what they were and then compliment them and Shay would go over the rules about only taking three pieces of candy and then ask everyone their names. So cute! I will try and post some pictures soon.

Happy Halloween

Make a Smilebox postcard

Thankful Thursday

God Thank you for my kids. They bless me each day with their smiles, hugs and kisses. Everyday Shay says "Mama I miss you when you at work" or "I miss you mama" Just today Nathan said with his head on my shoulder "This is the best day" Now later that day the statement was retracted but I choose to remember the first time. My heart aches when I lose my patient and see their faces drop or joy leave. I pray God will guide me each day help me to Love them as You Do Father! They are so special.

Can't Be Quiet

PLEASE READ BEFORE MAKING YOUR CHOICE!

I have really struggled with this election. From the start I didn't like most of the candidates so I did not get involved and that was a mistake. We live in the best country in the World and God allowed me to live in this country. I should never take that for granted. Now this has become the most important election in our history. Our country could change more than anyone could imagine and not for the good. We are blessed with Freedom and have the right to make choices about what be beleive and how we will express those beliefs. I let life wrap me up to the point of not noticing anything else going on around me. These freedoms could be gone.

I have followed many blogs since adopting Shay. One of these blogs has given me back my drive and love for this Country. She has faithfully voiced information that many people are not willing to do. Thank you!

I support McCain. If you are undecided or are feeling like you may no longer trust Obama. Please go and read this blog she has all the information anyone needs to see how our country may be heading for the worst change any one could imagine.

http://www.deliveredfromheaven.blogspot.com/

For the most part I have always been a Republican. Why? Due to how I see God in my life. How HE has given me the freedom to choose HIM. I see HIM in how our Founding Fathers set up our government. Spreading the wealth and larger government control are not my idea of Freedom. I don't understand all I should but I do know that God is in control and I have and will be praying.

Wordless Wednesday

Pictures - Where to Start???

Today I was finally able to get some pictures loaded onto the new computer. The first thing that came to mind was Nathan. We just celebrated our 6th "Gotcha Family Day"

Here are some of the things I didn't want to forget about our 6th year together.

• You are so smart and I am amazed everyday by your questions, remarks and ideas.
• You asked Jesus into your heart in June of this year. My prayer is that you will seek God first each and every day of your life. You will know His Love, Peace, Mercy and Grace all the days of your life.
• At the beginning of this year you were into Star Wars and Pirates. Star Wars has remained the entire year and with the start of Clone Wars I don't see it leaving any time soon. You also loved Perry the Platypus and did a project on Platypus in Kindergarten. You wanted to learn to play Chess and loved Legos. By the end of the year you add Batman and Bat's to things that you were interested in.
• Your favorite thing to do was to play your DS - Legos Star Wars, Indiana Jones and Batman. I think Santa will be bring you a different player this year.
• You started Kindergarten and loved school. This has continued into First Grade.
• So far in First Grade you have only missed one spelling word. (You didn't get that gift from me - spelling was not and is not one of my strong points.)
• We joined Boy Scouts and this has become your favorite activity.
• We are still struggling with ADHD and some other issues but together we seem to be finding ways to make it work.
• You became a great big brother to your sister. She loves you so much.
• Spiders and bugs are still you least favorite things in the world.
• Your favorite foods - Not many to pick from - Eating is just not important to you - Shrimp and Noodles at Nak*tos. Pop tarts, bacon, apples and waffles.
• Pooh, yellow, back-up along with Perry 1 and 2 are still great helps at night and make you feel safe.
• You made your first trip to the emergency room in an ambulance. Thank God is was not serious and later that day you were back to normal.
• Favorite place to visit is the beach. The smile on you face and the way to play non stop with out fear makes me wish that we lived much closer to the ocean.
• You saw the Space Shuttle blast off with Uncle John.
• You still love to be held and give good hugs.
  

You are growing up so fast and I wish you could just stay how you are right now. I love you more than you know. I am blessed to be you Mama.

Finally New Computer

I finally got the new computer up and running. Now I just have to add pictures to this computer. We are having a fun fall and look forward to Halloween. Shay is going to be Ariel or a Princess and Nathan has combined his favorite two things into Rex from Clone Wars with Bat Man. I can't wait to get some pictures. This is my favorite time of year. We have much to be thankful for. Check back soon for more updates and pictures.

Julie

Wordless Wednesday

School has started and Things are Good!

Nathan is now in his third week of first grade. He loves going and this year started riding the bus. Our bus mainly just picks up the kids that live on our street so the ride is very short. He had a great first week and did ok the second week. His sensory issues and ADHD are being address and hopefully he can continue to have a fun time. (For Everyone!) His school is great and has done such a good job of helping him succeed. Nathan is also taking swimming, AWANA's and Boy Scouts. We are trying soccer but that may not work out. He has to take his medication early so it is working at the start of school by the time soccer comes around he is not able to stay in control. It is a three way losing situation - He just wants to talk and play with the kids but gets over stimulated and then causes the other kids and the coach not to be able to practice. In swimming he only has four children in his class so he gets to move more and is doing a great job. He really surprised me when we started AWANA's. The kids have to remember different scriptures and he learned his first verse in just three tries. He still knows it and can repeat it when ever I ask him. Boy Scouts will be starting this week and he is excited. There is never a dull moment with Nathan. He still loves Star Wars, Lego's and his DS player. We got this beautiful tutu on Etsy - Gocksfrocks‏ - ShayLa loves it! Shay started preschool three days a week and really would love to go five days. I have to tell her that school is closed so she stops asking when she can go. She is taking gymnastics, cheerleading, swimming and AWANA's. Since I am at the gym each day gymnastics is more like childcare but she loves going and is getting better very quickly. Her cheerleading team has their first exhibition coming up and that should be such fun. ShayLa also loves swimming and is doing a great job. She has no fear and should be going across the pool before long. It seems so hard to believe that she has only been her just over a year. I can't imaging what her life would have been like if she was still in China. I can't imagine what my life would have been without her in it. She loved watching the Olympics and every time would be sure we knew - that was her China!
This is our new addition C.J. - aka Chewie (Chewbacca) Jack (Sparrow) O'Brien. Nathan could not decide between the two so we went with the initials. I am not really a cat person but finally gave in and C.J. was officially adopted in late August. He was a rescue kitty. So far I have to say that cats are much easier than dogs. He is very loving and gets along great with Rudy. I think Rudy is glad to have him around. They keep each other company during the day while we are gone.

Sorry for not posting sooner. The time just gets away and my computer at home is not allowing me to post pictures any more. It is old and has a old owner that doesn't know how to fix it. I told Nathan that we needed to call the "Geek Squad". We have a new computer but I am not sure how to set up the internet "Old - Not Computer literate Owner" so I don't get around to blogging very much.

Julie

Late Happy 4th

We are having a great time in Oklahoma seeing Nana and Papa. This is the first time for ShayLa to meet Papa. On the 4th we enjoyed the fireworks with Papa and both the kids kept saying this was the best fireworks they had ever seen. It was cute. I hope each year is the best. The days of our vacation are coming to a close and I've enjoyed resting and spend time with Nana and Papa. I finally found a bookstore where I could get online. So this will be the only post until we get back to Charlotte.

Julie

First Family Day June 18th 2008

JUNE 2008

JUNE 2007

This has been such an amazing year. God has blessed my family with such a precious child. She finds so much excitement and joy each day. She is a drama queen but that makes life dramatic and fun most of the time. Every day I tell her she makes me smile.

I want to thank my parents for this past year. My mom stayed with us most of the year to help us all adjust to our new family. My job responsibilities changed which meant more traveling on the weekends but more time home during the week. To keep things consistent my mom (Nana) stayed with the kids when I was gone. This meant my Dad (Papa) was left in alone most of the time. They both allowed us to have the best possible start to a family of three.

Nathan has become a wonderful big brother most of the time. They can both give each other a run for the money when it comes to getting their ways. Neither is very good at backing down. Just what you would think a health brother sister relationship would be like.

ShayLa's Top Favorite Things That I Remember are:
1. Dress up - Being a Girly Girl
2. Loves Princesses - ALL OF THEM
3. Loves to eat - From day one she would eat whatever we gave her - Noodles still No. 1
4. Loves to sing -When she first came home she would sing in Mandarin all the time and slowly that changed to songs in English but the singing has never stopped. I love it! I know someday that may go away. I enjoy it and thank God she loves life and is Happy! Her brother on the other hand could do with a little less singing.
5. She prays every night and she lets God know everything that is going on in her life. We can't always understand what she is saying but I know God does and I can imagine Him just smiling and nodding so patiently.
6. She puts all her toys in purses and bags and carries them around.
7. She loves stuffed animals - This year her favorites were - Cat, Pet, Bear and Teddy
8. She loves to talk - All the time!
9. She knows no strangers - Always happy to say hi and ask questions
10. Loves to have her picture taken - She is a poser.
11. She loves to dance. She is usually singing or dancing now she has added skipping.
12. She loves her brother - Most of the time. She has learned to scream before he touches her just like any little sister would.
13. Did I mention she is dramatic - We never had much trouble communicating with her. You can always tell what she wants just from her expressions. Which are not always happy but it doesn't take much to get her back to smiling and having fun.
14. School - Loves going and seeing her friends
15. Cheerleading - Loves to watch and is excited about starting
16. Bath time - After bath being a Baby and letting mama rock her and sing "I love you" from Barney. Then she sings it back to me. So sweet.
17. Mandarin classes - She loved playing and singing songs. She still understands Mandarin but doesn't speak much any more.
18. Mama - She tells me that I am her best friend. Everything had to be the same for the longest time. I had a drink so she needed a drink. I was eating so she was eating. She would point out all the things that were the same.
19. Loves to say "Oh My Gosh" for just about everything new and exciting. It is so cute when she puts her hands up to her mouth.
20. I could go on and on - I don't want to forget any of these things. She is growing up so fast.

She also had some hard times. When I tell people that she is not always happy they can't believe it. She is really good at whinning. This is something we really had to work on and still do. No one is perfect don't we all know.

If anyone has questions about adopting an older child or one with a cleft lip and palate please let me know. She is wonderful and neither issue has been a problem. I love China and pray for her birth family each day. I am so thankful they chose to give her life. I am thankful that God chose me to be her Mama.

Julie

One Year Ago June 17th

On June 17th we traveled from Beijing to Wuhan. Again we had a very easy flight. We had to wait three hours for our plane. The flight only took about an hour and a half. The airport in Wuhan was very small compared to Beijing but they were doing construction and I am sure they are done with that by now. Our guide in Wuhan was very good. She had a major in tourism and clearly loved Wuhan and China. She was very interested in all the pictures that my brother was taking. Our hotel in Wuhan was very nice and the room was the largest of all the hotels. We got in unpacked and then went exploring. We found a grocery store, McDonalds and many places to go shopping. It was a long night but I did get some sleep. I kept think about what it would be like to meet ShayLa. Would she be happy or sad. I kept thinking that they might not approve the adoption at the last minute. Crazy things but it was mixed with excitement and joy at the same time. Looking back it was silly to worry so much God had a plan and it was good.

Julie

One Year Ago June 14th - 16th

One year ago my brother and I started our journey to get ShayLa Elizabeth O'Brien. We had such a great time and truly miss China. I am writing about my memories of our trip. Each day Shay, Nathan and I have sat down and looked at the video, pictures and talked about what was happening last year. I can not wait to take Shay and Nathan back some day.

On June 14th we were traveling and due to the time change lost this day. It was worth the lost. We arrived late around 10:00 p.m. The airport was huge and very nice. We found Chandler our guide without much trouble and the drive from the airport to the hotel was exciting. Just so excited to be in China. Still feeling some disbelief. The city is huge and even at that time the streets were every crowded. Our hotel was very nice and the beds were not to hard. The strangest thing was having to leave the key in a slot on the wall so the lights and AC would work. By day two we realized that is one of us left our key in that the AC would stay on all day. SPOILED AMERICAN!!!.

June 15th we got up early met our group in the lobby and headed for Tian'an Men Square. I remember that the streets were very crowded and many people were on bikes. It was interesting to see all the different things they could do with a bike. Tian'an Men Square was much larger than I thought it would be. When I've seen it on TV filled with people you don't realize just how many people it can hold until you stand in the middle of it. My favorite part of the day was the Forbidden City. The history and beauty of the buildings were amazing. Our guide did a good job of educating us. Chandler was fun and I remember he was so excited about coming to the US later in the summer. I hope he had a great time. It was also very hot. We enjoyed Starbucks in the middle of Tian'an Men Square and later after we came home heard that they had shut it down. I got to see my first squatty potty. Luckily I didn't have to use one. They had western toilets also.

June 16th we toured the Great Wall. This was my favorite site of the entire trip. It is so big and hard to believe that it was built by people so long ago. We had a nice day and John made it all the way to the top. My knee was still bothering me so I only made it to the second tower. I remember thinking how strange it was to have people trying to sell things to us even up on the wall. They were persistent but nice. One of the older men kept following me around he would smile and come back again later. We did end up buying some of the coins. I know they are not real but Nathan loved them. Later in the day we went to the Cloisonne Factory and after that by the Olympic area. In the pictures you can see where they were still working on the building card the "Bird's Nest" and the other one is a picture of it finished. Everywhere you looked Beijing was getting ready for the Olympics. They had so much construction. I wondered how they were going to make the haze go away. We went to one of the Olympic stores and bought a number of gifts.

We had seven families that toured with us in Beijing. All of the children in our group were Special needs so the next day we split into smaller groups and head to the province where our children were waiting.

I want to thank my brother for the great pictures. He did a great job of capturing what we saw. Now we are sharing it with ShayLa. Every time she sees something in China she says "My China" I wish she understood more so we could ask her questions. I am not sure she really remembers. I know that did a great job caring for her. She is a joy and I am so blessed to have her in my life.

One Year Ago Today!

One Year ago today my brother and I boarded three planes to LA / Tokyo / Beijing. We had a safe easy flight on all three planes. Our connections were well timed and other than being really nervous and excited about getting to meet Shay our trip over was very smooth. I remember thinking when I woke up that day "What have I done" (just a little worried) and "WOW I can't believe the time has come" (thankful and excited). I could not believe we were on our way.

We upgraded our seats from LA to Tokyo which made the long part of our trip so nice. I've never been in first class so it was a treat. Our seats laid out flat and made sleeping very easy. I always sleep on planes so that just made it even easier. I think we still have the slippers they gave us. Our seats were upstairs on a plane that held over 400 people.

Shay and I talked about Mama coming to get her today. She doesn't really get it but it was fun talking about it. I am so thankful for her she is such a blessing. Everyday I thank God for letting me be her Mama.

Thank you also to Uncle John for coming with us last year, my Mom and Dad for staying with Nathan while we traveled and Nathan for letting Mama go for so long and being a good boy for Nana. He has been a great big brother most of the time.

Julie

Almost One Year! Look at Her Now

On June 18th we will celebrate our first year Family Day. I have a hard time expressing just how blessed I feel when I see her jump, sing, twirl and laugh. She knows no strangers and everything for the most part is so exciting. She does have her times when she crys and whines but so do we all and it doesn't take long for her to get back to your normal amazing self. I'm just a little bit biased. :) I am working on finding pictures from each month she has been home and hope to post them soon. All the picture stuff and video stuff on the blog's is new to me so it might take a while. My computer at home won't let me post pictures. I think it's to old.

We've had a great couple of weeks the high light was seeing Uncle John and the space shuttle blast off. I will write about that later. Hoping to have pictures to make it more exciting. We have made it to the end of Nathan's Kindergarten and he is enjoying Lego camp this week. We have three weeks of camp and then we will spend two weeks in Oklahoma with my parents. It is finally time for Papa to meet his Little Princess.

We had our first family photo session last Saturday so I hope those pictures will turn out and I will be able to post them soon. Both the kids did a great job except for Nathan's bug-a-phobia. Even the rollie pollies caused him stress. It was actually very commical but he didn't think so. I had visions of all the pictures turning out with him having his eyes all over the place looking for bugs. I am sure some will turn out great.

Julie

Still Here

Sorry for not posting over the last month. I didn't mean to wait that long but I've been having trouble with me computer at home and can't post anything. Hopefully I've got that all worked out "time will tell".

We are all doing great. Shayla finished up her first year of preschool and is out of school this week. She really misses going to school and asked each day if she can go back. Summer school starts next week so she'll be excited to see all of her friends again.

Nathan still has school for two more weeks. He is very excited about moving on to first grade. He is doing a great job at school and we've had almost two weeks of good reports. He will miss school and seeing his friends.

Tomorrow we are off to Florida. My brother (Uncle John) got all of us tickets to see the space shuttle blast off. Nathan can not wait. It will be so good to see him. He has not seen Shayla since we got back from China last year.

Over this past month my heart has just been aching for China and all the earth quake victims and then the Chapman family. We have been praying for them daily. I can not imagine the pain of losing a child. I watch my kids play and smile each day. When they get on my last nerve I remember and rejoice that they are here. So many children and families have been torn apart over this past month. Please remember to lift up everyone to the Lord.

ROM
12:12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

Julie